Robin’s Fertility Story
Mine is not a fertility story with a happy ending, I don’t have a child. I share it not for sympathy but to let donors and intended parents know why I am so passionate about what I do and how connecting families is very personal to me and what prompted me to start Global Egg Donors to help others on their fertility journey. This is my story.
- Age 20
Married, just 3 years after my parents’ divorce, all I want is to re-create a whole, healthy family unit. We are doing everything right to conceive.
- Age 35
Fifteen years and $40,000.00 later, still no pregnancy. All tests and exploratory operations have shown that I am a normal, healthy woman. I have just Tried for the Last Time, with the Best Infertility Specialist. I am labeled Idiopathic Infertility; meaning I am infertile without explanation.
Divorced by age 36. We finally broke under the strain. Too many years of making love according to the thermometer reading, before getting up in the morning. Then we could only "do it" every other day to optimize sperm count and motility. During the last few years our specialist has even encouraged me not to have orgasms. All passion died a slow death.
- Age 40
Does the longing ever stop? I am a single woman, yet feel my biological clock ticking loudly. With the help of The Sperm Bank, I go through an IVF procedure. Everything is normal, and my four fertilized eggs are transferred to my womb! No pregnancy. They tell me I am too old for another try at IVF. The chances of conception are now below 15%.
I learn about Egg Donation. I am not ready emotionally or financially for this $20,000.00 attempt. The waiting list for Egg Donors in my region is two years. There is still time as I am very healthy and only 43.
- Age 48
I am feeling at peace. I have heard worse stories from those who have suffered their empty wombs. I did not have multiple miscarriages; I didn't spend over $100,000.00 on my attempts. It has been years now since I shed tears over my infertility. Therapy helped and the time has healed…now my focus is helping intended parents conceive.
- Age 58
Life continually expands with the joy of assisting others and being included in their stories of gratitude sent to their donors over the years. For this, I am extremely grateful. Our first egg donor is still with me, daily supporting the donors, as I support the recipients. We’ve added a few more to our team, seeking first to help people as best as we can, we expand as our knowledge grows. Global Egg Donors has deepened greatly.
- Age 65
What a joy I experience when donors arrive to donate in California, they often elect to come stay with me a few days in Santa Barbara. Now my greatest joy is the change donating eggs has wrought in them: self-confidence, self-worth when receiving gratitude on the deepest of levels from their recipient, and travel that encourages “broad, wholesome, and charitable views.” Some even return to stay with me long after their donation days are over.