Donor: Delhi, India
Wow, there are so many things that I want to say. But first thing's first.
I got the idea to donate eggs when I had just gotten pregnant with my second daughter. I had gotten to know the pain of fertility issues through a woman very dear to me, and thus knew how blessed I was being able to conceive without effort two times already. But, I was pregnant, so the egg donation had to wait.
When I had given birth, and the baby's first birthday had passed I decided it was time to do something about it. I heard of Global Egg Donors through a friend of mine, and decided to sign up. A week later I got the letter, a couple asking me to donate for them in India in two months' time. Right then and there I knew that there was only one answer to that letter, and my answer to Robin sounded something like this: yes, yes, yes, of course!" And then everything was set in motion.
I had a great donor support, Karen, which followed me all the way through. She took care of every tiny little worry I had, and made sure everything was fine. Karen is really professional, yet caring and loving at the same time, she feels just like a friend!
When it got closer to my travelling dates I got my meds, and I thought to myself "oh my God, what am I getting myself into?" and I thought I'd never be able to do this. My husband was with me as we opened up the box of meds and took a look at what I got. The box contained numerous needles and syringes, and the needles were so tiny! But even though the needles were tiny, it was all very intimidating. As time passed I got more and more nervous about doing the injections. But when the time came, and I did the first injection, I was so surprised! It didn't hurt the tiniest bit – it was far easier than having a blood test done! I literally felt nothing! Boy, it felt like an enormous victory.
Despite the injection victory, I got more nervous each day that passed as it got closer to my travelling dates. At times I felt quite down, as I was going to leave my husband and our two daughters, that I had never left before, for 11 whole days, taking a leave from my new job to go so far away, to a country that I literally knew nothing about, and having an OPU that I had never done before.
It was one of those mornings, I was feeling down, when an email popped up in my inbox. It was a letter from my recipients! And almost like they could read my thoughts, the woman told me how easy her IVFs had been and that she hoped everything came easy to me too. They expressed their gratitude and their hopes that I was feeling good. Receiving that letter on a day that I was feeling not-so-great reassured me that I was doing the right thing.
Just two days later, I came across a picture on Facebook that spoke to me. It was of a woman's tummy all covered in stretch marks. The picture said: "For every woman unhappy with her postpartum marks, is another who wishes she had them." I was lucky, that I got my daughters and that it came easy. Now it was my turn to try and help a woman who wishes she had my stretch marks, to achieve her own.
A couple of days later my travels began. Upon my arrival in India I met my on-site donor support, Hanna, that I spent the next 8 days with. She took me to all my scans and the OPU, arranged a sightseeing trip for me, and even came with me sightseeing a few times. She was unbelievable!
I had a wonderful time in India. I never expected that I would ever visit such a faraway land. India left me disgusted and in awe at the same time. I both loved it and hated it. Now that I am home, I just miss being there, and I am very thankful for the chance that I got, to see such a different part of our world than what I am used to.
The day that I arrived in India I had my first scan with Dr.Shivani. She came across as a wonderful woman, respectable and professional. Her clinic was very nice and her staff too. I had my procedure on my fifth day in India. I had already seen a lot of sights around the city, and the day before the procedure I travelled to Agra to see the great TajMahal, with a private driver and a guide.
When I came to the clinic for my procedure, I was handed a gift bag from my recipient couple. When I opened it, it contained three little gifts, two for my girls and one for me. It also had a card that I opened when I came to after the procedure. Those couple of words on that little piece of paper had so much emotion to them, that it almost made me cry. I closed my eyes, and held on to that card so hard. I was so thankful for having had the chance to give my recipients this gift, and that they were so happy and thankful for it.
I had presumed I would be a bit off for the day of my procedure, but in fact I was fine after I got back to my hotel and finally had something to eat! I seriously think that the hardest part of all of this was to fast before my procedure in a country where everything tastes oh-so-delicious! After going back to my hotel I ordered a pizza to my room and rested for a couple of hours. Later in that day we took an easy walk to M-block market, where we found ourselves a spa and got great back massages. Needless to say, we went back there the next day, to be pampered even more!
I've been home for a week now. This whole adventure feels like a distant dream, but yet I think about my dear recipient couple and their eggs every hour of my day. I just wish there was something more that I could do, it feels like I've done so little, yet have gotten so much in return. The feeling of gratification can't be described, and neither can the feelings that I have for my recipients and their eggs, even though I have never met them, and know next to nothing about them.
Saying this experience was a good one, or a happy one, would be an understatement and very inaccurate. When I read the personal stories on the Global Egg Donors page before I signed up for this, I didn't understand that feeling the donors spoke about, but now I do. It is a feeling of gratification, of accomplishment, of appreciation. I feel thankful and flattered that my recipients chose me, and that I got the chance to help them. Because, no one can help everyone, but everyone can help someone. They were my "someone" to help, and hopefully, this will be all the help that they need.
I am truly glad that I chose to do this and went through with it. It has shown me that I am far stronger than I ever believed. I am very thankful to Global Egg Donors, Karen, Hanna and my recipient couple for making this a truly positive and beautiful experience.
"It’s such an awesome feeling to know I have helped people in a way that not many people can! It really makes me realise what is important in life and what is worth spending energy on."
"It’s a strange gig, being an egg donor – you feel so invested in a couple you've never met; you have so much hope and love and joy and other cheesy conceptual nouns for them – it is a difficult thing to explain. I really am cheering for you guys so loudly you can probably hear it!"
"I might not be someone who goes sky diving or climbing Mount Everest to collect money for charity, but this is my Mount Everest. Donating eggs to another woman is one of my greatest achievements, memories and experiences in my life. "